Hey, Hieee , Helloooo..... hope all of you are doing awesome. It has been a long time since I wrote an article. So without further delay lets get started....
Just some days back, me and one of my friend were discussing about something. Both of us were agree on the thing, but we were not able to implement it in real.....
familiar???
Many of you would be thinking, "Exactly, this is the problem, we can't implement the things even though we agree on those."
When I sat calmly and thought about it, then I analysed some reasons why we can't implement those things. The reason is we can get agreed but we can't ACCEPT those things. Now, again same problem, Why can't we accept the things? Why it takes so long to accept the things?
Actually, we are really very habitual to our daily routine. But when something changes all of a sudden, we are not able to handle that change. Because, we don't really want to get out of our COMFORT ZONE and do different things. That makes accepting further more difficult.
Another very well known reason is, EMOTIONS. If we are emotionally attached to something/someone we can't accept the change all of a sudden. Then, many of us try the well known medicine called HATRED. I won't say that it is wrong.... Because it is really very natural. If you really liked something and you are not able to get it, then you will feel disturbed. But our brain wants to be in comfort zone that is nothing but at normal condition. To overcome this unstable state of mind, we start listing out the points that..... Why that thing is not good and why its better not to have it. So that, we can keep our mind stable. This is nothing but hatred. That's why, " It is very easy to live with hatred , but its far more difficult to stay with love for thing which you did't get."
But after trying this also, some of us are not able to keep their hatred alive when the same thing will again cross their path..... Its ok..... to be like that..... Because, their is no delete button for our mind. We can't erase memories. So that, if we really want to get out of this instability we'll have to accept things. Its ok .... that you did't get that thing but, at least you were lucky enough to have some memories with it. It was never yours.... just try to accept it.... It will take a lot of time and strength to accept, but, after that..... nothing will be able to disturb you.
And the last but not the least, rather you can say the biggest reason why can't we accept is the EGO !!! Yes, unfortunately no one is exception to this, me too. Sometimes, we already know that mistake is mine, but our ego opposes us to apologize. Many of us stop talking out of guilt, but won't just say "sorry, the mistake was mine."
But if you will think carefully over this then you will get to know that, these all things are really very superficial. At the end, why we do everything in our lives???? For happiness, right?.... we all are seeking for a happiness, love and affection. But, if, due to the guilt or regret you are not able to stay happy.... then whats the point to have that ego. It will never be able to keep us happy.
Life is full of surprises rather one can say shocks !!!! you never know, the person, you just fought with, will be there with you in the next moment or not.... And it is very difficult to live with a regret. So, if you are sorry about something.... say it, If you liked something..... admire it..... Who knows you will get a next chance or not.... Life is too short to be egoistic, to live with hatred....
Ohhhoooo, too much philosophy no????.... many of you would be thinking..... " Sanvedana, are you this much perfect?"..... No, obviously I am not, but I have realized these things and trying to reach there. And as I have socially published this article..... If I would behave in a way, which will conflict my own thinking, then whoever has read this article will help me to realize it, and I will be back on the right track.....
So, the key of your happiness lies inside you only, don't try to find it outside. Just try to accept the things, forgive and forget , and say sorry.... cause relations are more important than ego.
